Happy Mother’s Day! Being a mother is a sacred journey, but it can also bring big feelings. This article shares five golden rules to help you walk your path with peace and power.
1. You Are Not Guilty of Your Motherhood
Many mothers carry guilt, thinking they’re not doing enough or doing it wrong. But motherhood is a divine calling. You are not guilty. You are chosen. Trust that you are exactly where you’re meant to be, and your child chose you for a reason.
*Example*: When you feel guilty for ordering takeout instead of cooking a homemade meal after a long day, remember that your presence and love matter more than perfection. Your child will remember your hugs and laughter, not that single day you were tired.
2. Detach from Every Phase of Growth with Your Child
Your child is a soul on their own path. As they grow, they will change, learn to change gears in each phase of growth, and adapt the rules and communication. Detach with love, not distance. Let them explore, knowing you are their safe harbour, not their anchor.
*Example*: When your teenager wants more independence and spends more time with friends, let them go with trust rather than fear. Remind them with neutral actions that you’re always there to support them, even as they test their wings.
3. Give Your Child Tools, Not Rules, to Fortify Their Identity
Rules can feel like walls. Tools feel like wings. Instead of telling your child what to do, teach them how to think, how to feel, and how to trust their own inner voice. Give them the skills to build their own strong identity.
The golden rule
The best skill you can give them is the ability to manage their own breath. After age 5, you can teach the breath kriya to children: 2 strokes on the inhalation, 2 strokes on the outbreath. Implement this breath while they are walking or playing.
While it’s important to offer freedom and encouragement, children also need healthy boundaries. A balance between caring and rules gives them a sense of safety and containment, especially during emotional storms like tantrums. Limits are not punishments—they are loving guideposts that help your child feel secure to express themselves within safe parameters. When you set gentle but firm boundaries, you teach your child that their feelings are valid, but so are the needs and well-being of those around them.
*Example*: Rather than saying, “You must always get straight A’s,” encourage your child to develop good study habits, ask questions, and bounce back from setbacks. This helps them become resilient and self-motivated.
*Another Example*: When your child has a tantrum, calmly acknowledge their feelings but maintain the boundary: “I see you’re upset, and it’s okay to feel mad, but it’s not okay to hit.” By consistently holding this limit with compassion, you show your child that they are safe and loved, even when they have big emotions.
4. Protect Your Child with the Power of Prayers
Prayer is a shield of light. When you pray for your child, you wrap them in a field of divine protection. It’s not about controlling their path, but about surrounding them with love and grace. Your prayers are powerful.
My teacher told me when I was a young mother: “There are 3 prayers the gods can not ignore: the prayer of a holy woman, the prayer of a spiritual teacher, and the prayer of the mother. As a mother, you are the 3 of them.
*Example*: Before your child heads to school or a big event, take a quiet moment to send them a blessing or say a prayer for their safety and happiness. Trust that this spiritual support travels with them wherever they go.
5. Embrace Your Child with Your Energy Field, Not with Your Worries
Your child feels your energy. Embrace them with your peace, your joy, your presence—not your fears. Trust that they came complete and perfect as a soul. They are choosing their own path, and you cannot intervene in their deepest choices. But you can hold them in your light.
As a mother, you embrace the child in your energy field until it is 7 years old; then the father embraces it until 13 or 14. After that, they own their own field and request that you let them explore their capacities. Risky times, but support in helping choose the right type of piers.
*Example*: If you’re worried about your child’s future or their choices. Go to your meditation, your practices, and fortify your energy field. Clear that negativity and ask for their forgiveness for being out of coherence with your divine role as a mother. Learn to hold the space with your presence.